Domestic victim in Samoa speaks up

LIFETIME SCARS: Tinei has to wear a bandana or a hat to hide the scars that she will carry for the rest of her life as a result of her husband's abuse. [Samoa Observer]

A woman who has lived in fear of her husband for more than ten years, has raised her hand to tell her story of abuse and violence.

The mother of six children asked to be called Tinei and to keep her identity and village anonymous to avoid any stigma on her family.

She left her husband two months ago to find a safe place and shelter for herself and her children.

In an interview with the Samoa Observer yesterday Tinei told of her terrifying life when she was with her husband.

Tinei recalled her husband either used a knife to chase her or hit her with timber.

She said he would also turn on their children if he was mad at her.

“Even when I was carrying my eldest son and was close to labour, it didn’t stop him from beating me up,” she said.

“I’ve been living with him for eleven years and for that long, he abuses me everyday when he gets drunk. Sometimes he would beat me up because I don’t have money to cater for his drinking habits.

“I’ve had enough of it and I got tired of staying hoping for him to change and love me back but it didn’t go anywhere.

“He keeps saying I was worthless and called me names…I had to leave and get away from him with my children and so I got up and left him, when I did.”

Tinei still carries the scars from her ugly past.


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